affirmations don't workGuest post by M. Farouk Radwan

Ever wondered why affirmations never worked for you?

It’s because you have been using them incorrectly. Affirmations are a powerful weapon but unless you know how to use them correctly, it might not add anything positive to your life.

But don’t fret; I will share with you the right way to utilize affirmations in order to reach your goals.

The Mistakes People Make With Affirmations

Here are the top mistakes people make when they attempt to use affirmations.

1) They take no action: Affirmations are a motivating tool and not a “wish and hope” tool. In other words, if you kept repeating affirmations without taking serious action, then you will just be daydreaming. 

2) They don’t visualize them: In order for affirmations to be effective, you don’t only have to repeat them but you have to feel them, visualize them and live them. The more powerful your experience is while repeating the affirmations, the more effective they will be.

3) They repeat the wrong affirmations: Some people make the mistake of repeating affirmations that don’t appeal to their subconscious mind and that’s why they feel guilty or inadequate after saying them. Make sure that any affirmations you recite are motivating statements that can help you achieve your goals instead of lies that your subconscious mind won’t like.

How Often to Use Affirmations

The human mind loves repetition; the more you repeat affirmative statements over and over, the more your mind will get programmed by them. The best time to use affirmations is as soon as you wake up and right before you sleep.

During these times, your mind becomes much more receptive to suggestions and will absorb your affirmations a lot easier.

You can also include the use of videos and/or motivating music with your affirmations to strengthen beliefs. The more variety of mediums you use to deliver the same message, the better will your mind absorb them.

Reaching Your Goals With Affirmations

Life is designed to work for those who take action. Many people miss this fact and become daydreamers. They use affirmations, hypnosis and the Law of Attraction to motivate themselves but when it comes to taking action, they do nothing which is why they end up disappointed. 
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If you want all of these motivational tools to work for you, then you must make sure that they are accompanied by serious action!

Written by M. Farouk Radwan, founder of 2 Know Myself.  

Farouk is a full time blogger who makes a living selling personal development books online. His main website is www.2knowmyself.com which has more than 2000 psychology articles and gets over one million page views each month. 

Kesha’s Advice to Making Affirmations Work

I have several sets of affirmative statements and use them according to how I feel and/or what I’m working on. I can tell you that I’m most successful when following the F.A.P.P.A. (yep, I just made that up!) method. Check it out…

  1. F – Feeling – You must say each statement with a warm, gooey, exciting, joyful feeling. You have to feel it in your core that the statement you are reciting is real. Just reciting words won’t do you any good. 
  2. A – Action – Well, now we all know that unless you prescribe to the “wish and hope factor,” you must also take action to achieve your goal. As Farouk mentioned above, none of the motivational tools we have available to us will work unless you take action! 
  3. P – Positive – Never phrase your affirmative statements in the negative. Don’t say, “I will not eat junk food anymore.” Instead, how about, “I choose to eat healthy foods.” Remember, your brain doesn’t know the difference between positve and negative statements. 
  4. P – Present – You’ll notice in the previous example that the alternative affirmative statement is in the present tense. That’s on purpose. Recite your affirmation as if it’s already occurring. Using the future tense will only keep that goal in the future, as in a state of continual wanting. 
  5. A – Attention – So saying your affirmation once may not be very beneficial for you. You have to give it some attention. Some people say daily use is integral. I say it depends on your goal. For instance, there are some statements I only say weekly while others I say daily (especially the general well-being ones). Just find the interval that works for you. I can tell you though that daily focus for most affirmative statements work best until you start to see results from your efforts.

Affirmations work best when you use the FAPPA method. tweet-this

Over to you…

Do you have any tricks up your sleeve to ensure your affirmations are working? Fill us in!

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Wassuper, it’s yo girl, Kesha and I believe we should Be the Fruit Loop in a world full of Cheerios because life is more interesting when you dare to be different and challenge what’s “normal!” I am wildly passionate about helping highly driven women pursue fantabulous relationships, juicytastic careers/bizzes, and authentically inspired lives.

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  • HI Kesha!
    informative blog.i like your tips about affirmation specially your principal FAPPA.all the description defined well.

  • Madonna

    Hi Kesha and Farouk,

    This is a very accurate post about why affirmations don’t work. I would like to add to two points.

    If affirmations are out of alignment with the unconscious mind they will not work, but I use EFT or tapping with my affirmations which clears the negative charge from the blocks. Nothing works all the time, but I find this helps.

    madonna

  • Hi Anshul
    thanks for your comment : )
    keep in touch

  • This is a great series of tips. The part where people tend get hung up, I think (oh, me too!) is on the “action” part. It’s great to think positive things but you do have to make positive things happen at some point! They aren’t just going to fall out of the sky. I find it’s helpful to write things down like this. Something about the act of transferring it to paper (paper! not keyboard!) is affirming and “active” and gets my whole self involved. And then there it is in black and white to hang out with you. Going to practice now. What a good way to start the day!

    • really happy you liked it Carol
      please keep in touch 🙂

  • Carol Minarcik

    Hey Kesha,

    Awesome artical…I totally agree, if people would add affirmations into their daily schedule their goals would be come a reality so much quicker.

    Keep up the Great work, I will return to read more..

    • turning them into a daily habit would be a great idea Carol
      keep in touch : )

  • I started writing down affirmations a long time ago when I was told that it was really important. Of course like you mentioned here Farouk, they failed to tell you that you had to take action and actually put the feeling with it in order for it to work.

    Now I use to want things really bad and I took the action steps that I knew to take to hopefully point me in that direction but most people just share with you to say that you want something even though you have no idea how it will appear and it will eventually appear. So if you have no idea how it will appear then it’s really difficult to take an action step right!

    What I have been doing for awhile now is I write down what I want and then I read it four times a day and I visualize having it and I feel the emotions behind it all. One of the things I wanted came rather quickly and the other really major one will be here before the end of the year. They aren’t necessarily affirmations though that I’m writing but they are similar.

    Great lesson to learn though and they do work. Thanks for sharing and great guest post Kesha… Love this topic.

    ~Adrienne

    • sounds like a solid plan Adrienne
      hope people can follow it
      happy to see you here :0

  • Hello Farouk,

    I hate Daydreamers. Daydreaming is completely and utterly waste of time because dreaming is not going to give us anything until we take any action. ( Just like you said.)

    Do not tell, do not imagine what you can do, just show it.

    Action is everything. People who achieved their dreams are action oriented people. its action what brings their dreams come true.

    Action is everything because unless you take any action you’ll remain where you are.

    Everything boils down to action. So first do it, then say it.

    And I think affirmation will work more effectively and profitably if we consider the medium also and think about the best way to deliver your affirmation using medium. 🙂

    BTW, great post. 🙂

    • thank you Romy : )
      i agree with you . unless we take actions our lives will remain the same
      thank you pal :

  • Hi Farouk,

    Great article and right up my alley as you know 🙂 I think that out of the reasons that affirmation you mentioned that don’t work for some is that people repeat an repeat their affirmations like a broken record without “feeling” and “believing” what they are saying at all. That’s not going to work, ever, this way. Feeling and believing is essential.

    Then, of course there is the taking action part. That’s another thing. Some people confuse affirmation with miracles.

    However, when done right affirmation work.

  • that’s right sylviane
    happy to see you here: )

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