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Growing up, I internalized a lot of [what I now know to be] crazy ish.
- I’m not smart enough (even though I was valedictorian of my high school class)
- I’m not pretty enough (even though I received, and still get, compliments often)
- I’m not light enough (I’ve written my story before about my skin color issues)
- I’m not good enough (even though I get accolades on my work)
So what has happened to me over the years with these thoughts in my head?
I tried to be smarter, prettier, better…I didn’t find a way to be lighter without damaging myself so left that one alone! LOL
You see what I said? I TRIED TO BE!
See, I was too busy trying to be when I already was…trying to be something which caused me to delay my already wonderful creative process…trying to be something when all I had to do was BE.
This occurred over years of conditioning until I was sick and tired of being sick and tired. I was so afraid to fail at anything that I took on the role of Perfectionist.
And you know how that works out? Not at all!
I actually wrote a whole series about perfectionism because I know there are others out there who are suffering from this condition as well. Yes, it’s a condition and not a good one!
It’s like I woke up from a bad dream. I no longer recognized myself but I didn’t know who it was I was seeing in the mirror.
“Is that really me?” Have you ever asked yourself that question?
You look up one day and you don’t even recognize yourself.
You think your mirror is playing tricks on you. It’s not. Mirrors don’t lie (unless we’re talking about the 10 lbs they add! LOL)
If you removed EVERY.SINGLE.LAYER of your [false] external self, would you recognize what appeared?
I think about this question often.
See, when I’m alone in my room, sometimes I stare at the wall and in the back of my mind I hear my conscience call. (Sorry, I channeled LL Cool J on this one! :D)
But seriously, when I’m in quiet mode and stare at nothing in particular, I hear voices. Now, don’t go trying to commit me. We all have them!
Why is it usually the negative voice that’s the loudest? Can someone answer that?
I actually believe it’s because we’ve listened to it the most, right? So much so that the positive, more loving voice gets drowned out to a whisper or silenced altogether.
What if I removed every negative thing I’ve internalized from myself AND from others, who would I be then?
What if I did only those things that served my higher purpose in life?
What if I said NO to others more often and said YES to myself? Would I recognize myself then?
Going through this exercise helped me understand myself a whole lot more, what I really want my life to look like, how I want it to unfold, who needs to be removed to make that happen (<< THIS is huge!), and who I now need to meet who can add value to my life.
I challenge you to answer these same questions of yourself because if you’re open enough, you will start to feel better simply at the thought of finding out who you really are and whose shoes you’re currently wearing and will soon take off! Ahhhhhhhh….
Whose Shoes Are You Wearing?
So speaking of shoes, I got my hands on this book called, Whose Shoes Are You Wearing? 12 Steps to Uncovering the Woman You Really Want to Be. It is phenomenally written by 2 sisters who share their experiences on how they removed the facade and uncovered their real selves.
From Chapter 1, I was hooked! I had set out to read a couple of chapters and then save the rest for later but I was so engaged in the writing (you’d think they were talking directly to you!), making notes on the side, circling key points, nodding my head YES!, and actually completing the exercises, that I looked up and had finished the book in one sitting. LOL
Yes, I truly believe it’s THAT eye-opening and soul-loving and definitely recommend it to any woman who is struggling in their life right now.
Check out this quick promo video and you’ll see why I love them so much (and you will too)!
Video Link for email subscribers and RSS readers : http://youtu.be/nQrasuuSE40
Christine K. St.Vil (founder of Moms ‘N Charge) & Julian B. Kiganda (founder of Bold & Fearless) are two sisters who decided to get together and write a book about gaining powerful insights from a spiritual perspective on why it’s important to find and fit into your own God-given shoes. They know this book has the power to change lives. You can grab your copy HERE.
Over to you…
I want to hear from you! Have you “uncovered” your real self yet? What are your plans to do so? Let’s take off someone else’s shoes and put on your own! 🙂