*Hold on while I wipe away some tears I was trying to hold back at the end of CSI NY………..*

Maaaaaannnnn, the season finale of CSI: NY this past week was a GOOD one! I love the shows that take you on an emotional ride. I was happy, angry, annoyed, relieved, sympathetic, and finally, joyful.

The episode was about a police shooting of an unarmed black man, community uproar from the disturbed public, and the race to answers about the case.

So that I won’t spoil it for those who haven’t seen it yet, just know that what we see is not always what it initially seems to be.

The title of the episode was very fitting: Today Is Life.


Today is life quote by dale carnegie
Image Credit: Eric Huber


 Go ahead and read that poster again. I’ll wait…..

Today IS Life

I remember when I first started studying resources in the realm of self development, metaphysics, and philosophy, there was one theme each had in common I paid attention to: Live today as if it were my last because tomorrow is never promised.

I had posted all types of signs in my cubicle at work with “Living Fully Today” and “Be Happy” types of messages and I remember one of my coworkers came in and [somewhat disgustingly] asked, “You believe all this new agey mumbo jumbo?

I first didn’t know how to respond. New agey mumbo jumbo? How is living life fully new agey nonsense?

I couldn’t yet figure out why he thought that living fully every day and learning to be happy despite what circumstances happen in your life is new age and mumbo jumbo. 

I decided not to question him about it because the way he had asked the question was argumentative and I dared not get into conversations like that, especially at work.

I then had to take a moment and breathe and not take his question as a personal attack against me.

Maybe this guy had so much negativity in his life that he just couldn’t see beyond the simple concept that tomorrow is NOT promised and/or he didn’t want to believe it.

Yes, that’s it! People don’t WANT to believe that today can be the last day of their lives so concepts like these are taken lightly.

If we could ask any departed soul what they’d do differently, I could probably bet that a lot of their answers would be to live more fully and/or live happier.

Incidentally, I asked my readers their thoughts on what it takes to live a happier life, and their responses were spot on!

Tomorrow Is NOT Promised

Despite our conscious or subconscious efforts to think we have all the time in the world and all the tomorrows and somedays we could ever want, I know you know that’s not the case. 

I’m not trying to paint a doomsday picture here either. This is just a fact. Every one of us has an expiration date. Ignoring it won’t make it go away. Go ahead and ignore the expiration date on the food in your frig; you’ll be in for a rude awakening!

So what matters then?

What matters is what we do with today, with now, with this very moment.

Here’s an exercise for you: At the end of each day, take a moment and fathom what it would be like if you knew you weren’t waking up tomorrow. Did you live today? Did you shine so bright and make your mark in the world that others felt the impact? Did you love?

Hopefully, EVERY night your answer is yes. If not, you may need to evaluate how you’re living.

I Challenge You To Make The Most of Today

Living fully is not “new agey mumbo jumbo” nonsense as my coworker so eloquently stated.

The young man who was a victim in a police shooting in the CSI: NY’s final episode also understood this concept clearly. He signed all letters to his girlfriend with “Today is life, the only life you are sure of. Make the most of today.”

What remarkable wisdom for a young person and I applaud his view on life. Let’s all take that same wisdom and apply it to our daily lives.

And when people, like myself, advise you to “Live Life to the Fullest,” know that it’s not nonsense. It’s real; it’s wonderful; it’s enlightening.

So make the most of today.

Will you?

Wassuper, it’s yo girl, Kesha and I believe we should Be the Fruit Loop in a world full of Cheerios because life is more interesting when you dare to be different and challenge what’s “normal!” I am wildly passionate about helping highly driven women pursue fantabulous relationships, juicytastic careers/bizzes, and authentically inspired lives.

Today Is Life: Living Fully Is NOT Just Mumbo Jumbo Nonsense

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  • Gillian Stephen (@Gillian_Stephen)

    Hi Lakesha, I like to talk about this but I don’t always do it. Then something happens to someone close to you and you realise that life is short, make the most of it! So thank you for the much needed reminder.

    Fitnessbuster Supporting you in getting your fitness and nutrition back on track

    • No prob Gillian; every now and then life shakes us up and gives us reminders but I like to live in such a way that guarantees much fun and love today in case tomorrow never comes. 🙂

  • I agree that we all should live our lives to the fullest because once this time passes by, it is not going to come back. So we should make the best of it when we are still alive and possess all the power to live to the fullest. We can choose to do things we are scared of and try everything we eagerly want to atleast once.

  • You mean that last Friday was the season finale? Dang it, going off the air again for awhile. I saw it and man was that some kind of show. I agree with you that things aren’t always as they seem. Oh and all I’ll say is “it’s about damn time”. 😉

    Girl, you know how I feel about this subject and I’ve been living my life that way for a very long time. I think I would have to have come back with one for your coworker though. I would have said something like, “darn, you mean you and God have got a pack and he’s promised you tomorrow? How can I get in on this”. They usually just stare at you in a stupor because they’re idiots! I know, sometimes I just can’t help myself.

    I’ve seen too much death in my life from children to adults. We never know when our time will come so don’t ever have any regrets and never let any of your loved ones go without things being resolved. That’s a hell of a way to live out the rest of your life.

    Great message Kesha, thanks so much for sharing this one.


    • LOL! Yes, that was a very interesting and inspiring episode.

      Why didn’t I think of something like that as a response (I’m working on being more quick-witted LOL). 🙂

      Lovely as always to see your beautiful face Adrienne!

  • I agree Lakesha, life is all about today and yes again those who are not happy with their life will try to bring you down to look at life from the same point of view. For them these are all thoughts and never a reality, I never try to persuade anyone to change their perspective but rather let time do it for them.

  • I accept your challenge. Count me in. I love your thought of living your present and not bothering so much of future as it is not promised.

  • Great post with an impressive thought of living life fullest with no sorrows and regrets! Thanks for making me realize where I am leading to and where I should actually be. Your article somehow has helped me a lot to come out of miseries and pain. Thanks Lakesha!

  • Sheri

    Great reminder, Kesha! I agree that it is hard to imagine that today could be one’s expiration date. At times it is for me. But I accept your challenge to remain conscious about the “now”. Thanks for sharing!

    • Awesome Sheri and I’m glad you’re on board! It can be daunting to think about our life’s end but you know what, there’s nothing we can really do but take advantage of the time given to us right now and enjoy it as best we can. I know when I do, my life’s experiences are that much more fun, open, and loving. 🙂

  • I agree, not worth the argument… I had experienced something similar in my life, where the job I was doing required me to do more self-development than I normally had and I read some great books that changed my life. Really changed my life! When I shared the different things I had been reading with one of my best friends at the time, she asked me what kind of Kool-Aid I was drinking …needless to say she is no longer in my life …

    • Girl, say it aint so! She had you drinking kool-aid huh…SMH…well, I guess self-learning/improvement/development ain’t for everybody LOL

  • I can’t fool with you or CBS. They always have me rethinking life and the meaning of it. There are a lot of times where I refused to change my way of thinking because of a previous STRONG stance that I had taken on it. For example, breastfeeding – I still champion for it, but I realize that this may not be everyone’s reality and I chime in with info when I can instead of beating people over the head for bashing it. Sometimes, it works, sometimes it doesn’t. That doesn’t change who I am, or how I think. Great piece!

    • LOL CBS and I are on a mission to change you 🙂

      Thanks boo boo for coming over and chiming in!! *hugs*

  • Brandi

    I absolutely will make the most of today! The thing that seems to be draining my life the most seems to be things like work and being online. I’m going to do my best to not let those hinder LIVING. Really living. Thank you for the reminder!

    • No problem chica, that’s what I’m here for! 😉

  • Yes! Yesterday is gone and tomorrow may never come. For those reasons alone, each person should make the most of today!

  • I make sure I relearn this every single day. I say relearn it because till the day comes where I stress about absolutely nothing, oh I have this to learn again and again. You see if I knew it was my last day, I would never even think of that issue. Thanks for such a great article Lakesha!

    • No problem chica and as each new day brings with it new challenges, it’s an awesome idea to “relearn” and re-invite this lesson into our daily lives! It’s just another one of those tricks of the Life trade that can help us fully enjoy our moment to moment experiences.

  • Joyce@MommyTalkShow

    I saw the same episode of CSI:NY and it was moving.
    I try to use the message from the show to motivate me out of my professional paralysis. I’m scared. I don’t want to fail. I don’t want to be vulnerable.
    Then I remember when someone is diagnosed with a terminal illness and given a few days/months to live they suddenly become bold enough to do damn there everything.
    I don’t want a terminal diagnosis to motivate me!

    • Girl, me and you both! I don’t want a death sentence to kick my butt into gear! So let’s continue to motivate each other and put ‘artificial’ fire under our butts. 🙂

      Speaking of paralysis – where do you find yourself stuck? Is there anything I can do to help you move past it?

  • Michelle

    This spoke to me on so many levels and reminded me I need start tuning back into CSI: NY!

    Tomorrow is definitely not promised and a life not lived is one that’s being taken for granted, in my opinion. We’re given a day to inspire, motivate and just DO so much.

    • Girl, yes, hopefully the next season is even better. Though I will admit, CSI Miami is my favorite one. 🙂

      And thank you; you said it rather nicely – just DO…and BE and HAVE as much as we want in this very moment. Taking life for granted serves no one’s purpose and robs us of a full experience of joy, regardless of what’s going on. So I’m with you – let’s inspire, motivate and DO more each day!

  • I have been making myself make each day as juicy as possible. Whether its work, running an errand or what. Even days I choose to nap I know that I am living a full life.

    • Oooooh, I like that word – juicy!

      I’m glad you’re realizing that living a full life doesn’t mean having to be “busy” or doing something all the time. Rest is mandatory and can be used for reflection and meditation, ease of physical and emotional exertion, learning to love silence, and simply enjoying the moment. Nap on girlfriend! 🙂


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