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"The Empire Strikes Back"

 

How often have you heard the following:

  • I’ll give it a try…
  • I will try to come…
  • I will try to get it done…
  • I’ll try to see how it goes…
and on and on. 
 
But when you really think about it, “trying” to do anything never gets it done. Yoda demonstrates this instructive principle in the movie “The Empire Strikes Back” when he tells Luke to pull out his sunken spaceship using only his mind. I guess Yoda told you, Luke! 🙂

The Empire Strikes Back: Yoda’s Wisdom

 
I hear you asking, “Well doesn’t try mean to attempt to do or accomplish something?” Yes, it does as the dictionary tells us. But this post is to take a look at how most people use this word as an excuse for not doing something or as a lack of commitment.
 
Have you ever “tried” to touch your nose? Have you ever “tried” to stand up? Have you ever “tried” to think about something? Have you ever “tried” to relax? Have you ever “tried” to go somewhere but just couldn’t move (outside of paralysis, you guys get my drift!)?
 
Go ahead…I’ll wait while you try to do the things above….*raps fingers on desk*
 
Times up! Most likely, the trying of any of the above scenarios left you unsuccessful. 

What’s Wrong With Trying?

Here’s what’s wrong – Trying is not action. It is a condition of the mind. It invokes a sense of frustration and/or a lack of purpose. It sets the stage for no results. Things can work when you are trying, but they work despite your trying, not because of it. The use of the word is one of the ways people have found to not-so-cleverly make excuses. I think we just feel it’s easier for us to let ourselves off the hook when we fail.

There is a distinct difference between trying and doing. As Yoda suggested to Luke in the movie, the difference may only be in your mind, but it has a dramatic impact on the outcome of whatever you set out to do. 

In addition, the use of the word try allows for the mindset that we might not succeed. However, it’s way better to commit to doing and to realize it takes perseverance and patience to complete the task than to slight yourself and say “I’ll try…”

Stop Trying and Just Do It Already!

A few years ago, I got so tired of hearing my niece and nephew saying that word so I banned its use in my presence. (Another word I banned them from using was can’t but that’s a whole ‘notha post 🙂 )

Once they learned to change their language, they began to see they could actually accomplish more. The same goes for us as adults. 

It may sound counter-intuitive but listen to this: To NOT try is to make a commitment – either you do or you don’t; either you are or you’re not; either you will or you won’t. That’s it!

Until you make a decision to do something, it won’t manifest in your life. Whatever you want to be or do, just be it or do it. 

I remember “trying” to start this blog for the last couple of years, but only because I finally made the decision to just do it are you able to be reading this article right now.

“Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit at home and think about it. Go out and get busy.” – Dale Carnegie

Now I’m talking to myself too as I write this because I have a something I’ve been trying to do for years and guess what? It’s not done yet! I know that it’s because I don’t want to commit to the work needed to actually do it. Now that I’ve admitted this to myself, I know I need to either take a different approach or scrap the idea altogether. This is exactly the process we all need to undertake to avoid the cycle of trying….

Over to you…

What are your thoughts on the word “try”? Do you think it should be removed from our vocabulary? Why or why not?

 

Wassuper, it’s yo girl, Kesha and I believe we should Be the Fruit Loop in a world full of Cheerios because life is more interesting when you dare to be different and challenge what’s “normal!” I am wildly passionate about helping highly driven women pursue fantabulous relationships, juicytastic careers/bizzes, and authentically inspired lives. Let’s rethink, redo, and reinvent YOU so you can live life YOUR way!
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  • Love Yoda logic …. this is my year to give new things a try!!!
    Happy new year to you!

    • Here’s to us both trying all types of new things! Happy new year to you as well boo boo! 🙂

  • Love your writing and thinking Kesha. 2012 hopefully with be the year to just do it.

    • It WILL be…I’ve claimed it already for both of us 🙂

  • I love that quote and will have to steal it for my site. Because it’s so true! People ask me how I do what I do – who cares, I just do and I love it!!!

    Thanks for sharing this!!!

    • No problem…go ahead and feel free to use it Kim! I love your attitude – just do it 🙂 And when you love it, the world shines even brighter for you!

  • Love this! Life is all about LIVING and DOING. Anything else is unacceptable. Happy New Year, girlie! Great post!

    • And you’re a prime example of both and I love you for it! Such an inspiration to us all boo! Happy New Year! 🙂

  • Great words Kesha. Yes life is indeed about just do it which we keep trying all through our life.

  • Kesha- Last year I wrote an article with the same thoughts and even quoted Yoda as well! (http://ezinearticles.com/?Do,-Or-Do-Not—There-is-No-Try—Jedi-Master-Yoda&id=3510703) And you know what? I needed to be reminded of my own ideas on this, since it is so easy to slip into the “I’ll try” mode. Thanks so much for bringing back my attention to what I already believed! Great minds think alike!

    Candace Davenport
    http://www.ourlittlebooks.com ~ Little Books with a Big Message

  • This seems to be quite a popular post topic! The quote is a great one by Yoda and never ceases to inspire!

    • Yes, very popular topic and I hope more people actually take heed 🙂

      Thanks for commenting Burl!

      ~Kesha

  • trying is these days the best i can do … sorry to admit that 🙁

    • Helen, that’s the only thing we all can do – do our very best in everything we do. Whatever the outcome, we will have known that we did our best 🙂 Keep it up Helen!

      ~Kesha

  • Lee

    This is one of my all time favorite quotes in my inspiration collection. I am right there with you about the “trying” thing. My Jamaican mother’s version is “stop coming and come on!” It falls into the same category of people saying they “don’t have the time” to do whatever. What that really means is “I haven’t or do not want to make it a priority”. It is so much easier to just say you are not going to do something so you can mark it off your to-do list.

    • I LOVE that – “stop coming and come on!” hilarious and definitely the same concept!

      Thanks for sharing your mother’s wisdom Lee and for your feedback here. Look forward to seeing you back soon 🙂

      ~Kesha

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