How often have you heard the following:
- I’ll give it a try…
- I will try to come…
- I will try to get it done…
- I’ll try to see how it goes…
The Empire Strikes Back: Yoda’s Wisdom
What’s Wrong With Trying?
Here’s what’s wrong – Trying is not action. It is a condition of the mind. It invokes a sense of frustration and/or a lack of purpose. It sets the stage for no results. Things can work when you are trying, but they work despite your trying, not because of it. The use of the word is one of the ways people have found to not-so-cleverly make excuses. I think we just feel it’s easier for us to let ourselves off the hook when we fail.
There is a distinct difference between trying and doing. As Yoda suggested to Luke in the movie, the difference may only be in your mind, but it has a dramatic impact on the outcome of whatever you set out to do.
Stop Trying and Just Do It Already!
A few years ago, I got so tired of hearing my niece and nephew saying that word so I banned its use in my presence. (Another word I banned them from using was can’t but that’s a whole ‘notha post )
Once they learned to change their language, they began to see they could actually accomplish more. The same goes for us as adults.
It may sound counter-intuitive but listen to this: To NOT try is to make a commitment – either you do or you don’t; either you are or you’re not; either you will or you won’t. That’s it!
Until you make a decision to do something, it won’t manifest in your life. Whatever you want to be or do, just be it or do it.
I remember “trying” to start this blog for the last couple of years, but only because I finally made the decision to just do it are you able to be reading this article right now.
“Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit at home and think about it. Go out and get busy.” - Dale Carnegie
Now I’m talking to myself too as I write this because I have a something I’ve been trying to do for years and guess what? It’s not done yet! I know that it’s because I don’t want to commit to the work needed to actually do it. Now that I’ve admitted this to myself, I know I need to either take a different approach or scrap the idea altogether. This is exactly the process we all need to undertake to avoid the cycle of trying….
Over to you…
What are your thoughts on the word “try”? Do you think it should be removed from our vocabulary? Why or why not?