On 10/15/2012, we celebrate the sixth annual Blog Action Day, a yearly event where thousands of blogs around the web-o-shere write about a particular issue to increase its global focus and attention. This year’s theme is The Power of We!
The Power of We is a celebration of people working together to make a positive difference in the world, either for their own communities or for people they will never meet half way around the world.
So why have I decided to participate, you ask? Because the first thing I thought about when I saw the theme was that ‘We the People‘ (sounds like I’m getting ready to start the preamble eh? LOL) all across the world need to create better relationships with each other.
There is such a breakdown of relationships nowadays (familial, romantic, business, and personal) that we MUST do something now before we run each other into the ground! People are complaining about how it’s hard to get along with others and are more hateful, aggressive and violent toward others, and it’s simply sad.
In order to effect global change, let’s first start in our own backyards. Helen Keller was on to something…
Self-Centeredness – the main cause of chaotic relationships…
Yep, I went there. Think about it.
Self-centeredness, self-confidence, being selfish – all terms that are sometimes used interchangeably and get a bad rep.
Although I do believe that being selfish to a point and thinking about self first is vital to living a successful life because you have to take care of self first before you can do so for others. However, I also think there is a balance that’s needed between being completely self-centered and being a martyr.
In our Western cultures, it seems that people have this holier-than-thou, narcissistic view of themselves which results in judgement, hatred, envy, and careless attitudes towards others.
So ultimately our relationships with family, friends, business associates, and romantic partners suffer. When everybody is thinking, “It’s all about me!” how can we create and build genuine, trusting relationships with others?
Ways to relate better with others
It’s not the end of the world though. We can turn this around! We can co-create a world where we play better with each other, help each other grow, have more fun with each other without all the negativity.
So here are some ways you can start relating better with others:
1. Know your own worth first and then you can start to value others
When you value yourself and know your worth, other people will too. Not only can does knowing your worth allow you to value others, but it also allows you to start to understand others more easily. You’ll realize that everyone is valuable and just like you want to feel valued, so does everyone else. Once we all realize this, we can all live in better harmony with each other!
2. It’s all about giving (without having your hand out for the taking)
Bonnie Copeland, of My Rivendell, recently had a Birthday Hangover (you have to read her post to see what she means by that!) and shared several things she did as a result. I was completely inspired by her acts of kindness and compassion she showed perfect strangers including sharing her gift cards with the person behind her in the grocery store line, giving people compliments, saying thank you to someone, and one my favorites, simply smiled at everyone she saw! She did so much more that I’m sure you’ll be inspired to do some of these seemingly SMALL things, which could end up being a really BIG thing for others!
Not only do simple things like this go a long way but it shows others that you’re taking stock in what they have going in life and investing time and/or resources in them. You never know someone’s plight and what they’re going through. You can really be a beacon of light in someone’s life by doing small things.
3. I love you/I thank you/I Appreciate You/I forgive You
Think about the last time someone said these phrases to you. How did you feel? I bet it was great to feel loved and appreciated right?
Since you know how it feels then, why not say it to someone else? It doesn’t take much really. Move PRIDE and EGO out of the way and just let it rip! Go ahead, the other person is waiting!
4. Be YOU
In the end, there’s no relationship you can fix without fixing the relationship with yourself first, meaning get comfortable being you – ALL of you!
When you are comfortable being yourself, it shows to others. They get a sense that you’re REAL and they want to relate with you more. Being your real self also portrays confidence and who doesn’t like to be around confident people? I sure do!
Stronger bonds are created between authentic selves!
Warning: Being YOU also means there will be people who won’t like you but guess what? SO WHAT! Keep being you and keep creating positive, loving relationships anyway.
5. Want more?
Pick the Brain offers 5 ways to build better relationships with everyone! Check it out.
What are doing to create better relationships?
This is where I
ask solicit implore, yes that’s the word I’m looking for, you to get you involved. How can you start today, right now to create a better relationship with at least one person? That’s where it starts. Just one…weigh in family!