The way you treat yourself sets the standard for others. ~Sonya Friedman
A person’s worth in this world is estimated according to the value they put on themselves. ~Jean De La Bruyere
If you put a small value on yourself, rest assured that the world will not raise your price. ~Unknown Author
I really like that last quote! I wish I could give dap to the person who said it but I can’t find the source
Do You Know Your Worth?
I’m sure you’ve heard of net worth, where you take your liabilities and subtract them from your assets resulting in your total financial outlook. Some people value themselves by this number and this number alone but we’ll leave that for another discussion.
Today, this is not that discussion. We are talking about knowing your worth as a human being, with which money can’t compare. Your worth is so much more than any monetary value. Knowing this, your life will flow so much more easily. You may have your own way/indication/formula/ideals to measure your worth but as long as you have something, I’m happy!
To further expound on this topic, I’ve invited a very good friend of mine, Tamiko Cuellar, to offer her thoughts.
I am exicted to write this article because far too many people allow themselves to be used by people, not once or twice, but over and over again. Why is this the case?
You should ask yourself, “Do I always find myself in a position where I give more of myself than I receive in return, only to feel used or taken advantage of?”
If the answer is yes, then maybe it’s you and not them. This is why knowing your value and worth is necessary for healthy and balanced relationships/friendships. Allow God to show you your worth and not people.
The harsh reality is that there are some people in this world who will take from you with little or no regard for your well being. And then there are others who simply never feel that they are imposing upon you because you never set any boundaries. I have always lived by the mantra that you teach people how to treat you. This will help you set boundaries for what you will allow and what you won’t. Boundaries are healthy. A boundary in the middle of a highway is great because it will keep cars from crossing out of their lanes into oncoming traffic, thus avoiding a head-on collision.
How do you know if you are being used?
Let’s take a look at some of the signs you are being used:
- You find it hard to say no.
- You feel obligated to do what people ask you to do.
- You do things just to please other people.
- You constantly seek others’ approval of you.
- You let people guilt you into doing things that you really don’t want to do.
- You are always there for people but have no one to depend on when you are in need.
- You feel like doing things for people will secure their place in your life.
- You only feel like you are worth something when you are rescuing someone.
- You find yourself complaining that you give too much but keep doing it anyway.
- People often tell you that you are being used or are “too nice”.
It’s not selfish when you pull back from someone or something that is constantly taking from you, especially when there is little fulfillment for you. We are designed to give AND receive!
So here’s the good news. If you ball up a $100 bill, throw it on the ground and stomp on it 10 times, it’s still worth $100. It’s battered and in poor condition, but that doesn’t change its value. The same goes for you. Regardless of how people have mistreated and used you in the past or present, you are still precious and of high value. However, until you see it for yourself, you’ll never create those healthy boundaries. Just say NO!
Editor’s Note: If you are finding it difficult to say no, here are 20 definitive ways to say no once and for all!
Tamiko is a freelance inspirational writer, speaker, educator and business owner. Her passion to see people live out their true life’s purpose and reach their potential comes across in all that she does, whether it’s working with children or adults. To see more of her inspirational articles please visit http://www.examiner.com/evangelical-in-st-louis/tamiko-cuellar. To learn more about her educational work with children, visit SmartMindsTutoring.
Over to you…
Do you know your worth? Do you know how precious you are? Did you find that you identify with any of above 10 signs? I’d love to hear your thoughts on this. Please share below!