Recently, I was in New York City by myself for 5 days kicking it before my friends arrived! When I told people that I was going by myself, I got stares, questions, and most notably, got the statement, “I couldn’t/wouldn’t want to do that!”
Shoot, I figure if I keep waiting on people to do things with me in life, I’d NEVER go anywhere!
Going places alone is something many people just won’t do for whatever reason. Is it because they think they’ll look like a loser; maybe even like they don’t have any friends? Is it because they consider going places alone dangerous?
Honestly, I think going out and doing things by yourself gets a bad rap, one that isn’t deserved.
Side note: Being alone and loneliness are NOT the same thing! Besides, if YOU can’t go anywhere with you, who should?! LOL
Going Places Alone
Sometimes, there are disadvantages to always having/wanting to go out with others. For instance, going to dinner? How long will it take the “group” to decide on the restaurant? How about a movie? You love romantic comedies but your friends like blood and gore – not good! When you have only yourself to worry about, you can eat what you want, see the movie you want to see, and enjoy what you like without any noise from other parties!
Heck, I go out to eat by myself, go to the movies by myself, go to events by myself, show up at parties by myself….but I guess I just have one of those personalities where I never “feel” alone, especially since I end up meeting new people this way! Fun, fun!
Okay, maybe it’s just natural that many people feel exposed or vulnerable when they go out alone. I understand that. When I was in New York (especially at night), this is why I made sure to stay vigilant in my surroundings, but I wasn’t so afraid that I didn’t get to enjoy the experience. I mean, we even have to careful in our own backyards these days, don’t we?!
Just Go For It!
If you don’t normally go out alone, just try it. It will be a new experience for you and there are mind blowing reasons why you should start experiencing new things! If you’re used to going out with a friend or in a group, it will definitely feel a little weird at first when you strike out on your own. But the crazy thing is after a while you’ll find that you actually like it and you may even figure out for the first time in your life all of the qualities that you love about yourself, that which makes you unique. You’ll wonder why you hadn’t done this before. 🙂
Don’t Be Skurrrrred!
Fear is one of the biggest holdbacks but one thing’s for sure, after traveling or doing things alone the first time, you’ll feel more empowered than ever before!
Nearly anything you can do with someone else you can do alone. Here’s a short list:
- Get a mani, pedi or massage
- Visit that museum that would bore your closest friends to tears
- Savor a good book while you’re out to dinner
- Hang out at Starbucks and people-watch (or at the airport, mall, park)
- Go to a concert
- Enjoy a long drive through the country – and even stop to “smell the roses” if you want
- Go shopping! You won’t have anyone else slowing you down or telling you that you’re taking FOREVER to try on that great pair of jeans
- Travel to your dream destination (or at least as far as your budget will let you go, even if it’s barely out of the state)
Living Life Happy Doesn’t Always Require Companionship!
The truth is that going places alone does NOT make you look like a loser; it makes you look (and feel) self-confident. Imagine doing anything you like without needing anyone’s permission or having to get the opinion of everyone else. It’s simply liberating! And traveling alone? Fabulous! Make a game of it, travel “incognito,” or just relax and enjoy spending time that moves at your own pace.
Sometimes being alone is a GOOD things so just go for it my friends!
Over to you…
Soooo, do you feel comfortable go places alone? Please share why or why not below in the comments!