This post is part of the series of letters to our younger selves, sending them hope, courage, and the love it takes to grow older and wiser. My hope is that this series will encourage others, young and old, to be a better version of themselves starting right now, today!

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dear younger self alison hector

This letter is brought to you by Alison Hector, creator of Embrace The Struggle

Dear Ali-puss,

Alison Hector at age 17Look at you!  Seventeen and  a doll!   

I know you struggle with that truth but it IS the truth. Feel good about yourself at that great age, baby, and focus less on the externals.

BUT, make sure you look after your hair, skin, nails (yeah, you’ll have nails when you stop biting them!).  And enjoy that full head of hair!

Sometimes it sucks to be a teenager, Ali. You feel like you don’t fit in. Well, it’s okay to be different. Don’t try to blend in. You are enough, just as you are.

Ignore  the haters. Don’t dwell on them; the problem lies with them, not you.  The best revenge is a life well lived. You’ll see!

I want you to live up to your name, Alison, which means “Teller of Truth.” Speak up and own your opinions. You think people won’t listen? Think again! People need to hear your POV (point of view). It will mature into wisdom and discernment that will bless others.

Ali, I really want you to know and believe that you’re stronger than you think. Never forget the source of your strength: God. You are capable of far more than you give yourself credit. Stay strong in the face of disappointments and setbacks. They will build a level of character, fortitude, and resilience that you will need as you mature.

Keep singing! Your life song soars, your life story matters. Sharing your love of music will make a difference in people’s lives.

Alison Hector singing

I want you to cultivate your love of reading and writing. Hone that intellect, even though you think you don’t want to go to college. Go! It’ll open great doors for you.

See how you’re intrigued by the Word of God? Don’t forsake it; rather, make it a staple of your life.

Ali, as you learn to set boundaries, you will see that once you start things right, they’re more likely to end right. Don’t build walls around yourself to keep out the hurt, my dear. They’ll end up keeping out everything, including a full, rewarding life.

I want you to feed both the left and right sides of your brain, your logical, order-loving side and the creative, out-of-the-box side. They are dual images of the unique you. You don’t have to be either/or, girlfriend! 

Alison Hector - young woman

Loved one, cherish your ability to spend time on your own and not be bored. Blend it with your sociable side, and you’ll have a winning combination.

Growing up poor has its benefits. Don’t let what you haven’t had obscure what you do have: a loving family, a great education, and good friends. Take the good with the bad. It’s made you into a one-of-a-kind.

Most of all, hold on to trusted friends from childhood, Ali. Those precious friendships will grow in value over the years! They are your sisters from another mother!

Over to you…

If you would like to write a letter to your younger self to be featured in this series, contact me. The more the merrier! :)

Wassuper, it’s yo girl, Kesha and I believe we should Be the Fruit Loop in a world full of Cheerios because life is more interesting when you dare to be different and challenge what’s “normal!” I am wildly passionate about helping highly driven women pursue fantabulous relationships, juicytastic careers/bizzes, and authentically inspired lives.

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  • Interesting- but I don’t think this will draw in her younger self- or even other younger selves…
    I find that more honesty is required to do that. Which means owning up to things that didn’t go as planned – or things that really put you behind the eight ball and how you got back on top…
    But, that may just be the folks whom I have mentored.

    • No, that definitely makes sense Roy and I see where you’re going. I’ll ask participants to add more depth of that nature. As always, you know I love and appreciate your feedback!!! 🙂

  • I have been enjoying this series. One thing it shows it that the younger me may not respond to what the younger you would have responded to, and that is ok.Each person can be hopeful for the future when she looks back at her younger self with older, wiser knowledge.

    • So glad you’ve been enjoying it Janeane and you’re right, each story will reach different people and that’s my hope. The lessons/wisdom can speak to different people at different times. For instance, one day I can come back and read one of these and though it didn’t pertain to me previously, it could incite something to be a better me currently. 🙂

  • Burton

    I just wanted to say that I love this series. I think it is very inspiring and reminds me of the power of speaking positively about ourselves to ourselves. Thank you for thinking outside of the box and providing something original and inspirational.

    • And THANK YOU Burton for your kind words and checking out the series. You’re always welcome to join in! 🙂


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