Oh, the proverbial closet…and wait, I’m not just talking about coming out of the closet regarding sexual orientation (however, that is just ONE of the many closets people find themselves in). Noooooo…I’m talking about the closets that keep us locked up; those difficult conversations we need to have.
You know what I’m talking about right? Coming out of the closet could mean anything from telling someone how you really feel about them, telling your family you want to quit your job to pursue a passion, telling a significant other you no longer feel the same way about them to admitting you have an addiction to something or even that you have a disease – basically anything that would cause us to be afraid to tell or admit to another person.
We all have been or are still living in a closet…and it doesn’t matter the size of the closet or why we’re hiding in one. The fact of the matter is, we’re in it….hiding…waiting…fearing…
A friend of mine, Sulinya Ramanan, shared a video on her Facebook profile and the title caught my eye:
“A 4-Year-Old Girl Asked A Lesbian If She’s A Boy. She Responded The Awesomest Way Possible.“
And in this video, a very wise woman named Ash Beckham shares the idea that we all have hard times in our lives, hard stories to tell, hard decisions to make, and hard conversations to have. She also touches upon:
- how living in YOUR closet isn’t any different than me living in MINE
- everybody’s coming out story is hard…stop comparing “hards”
- why coming out of the closet is so hard in the first place
- what it takes to come out of the closet (she explains her 3 Pancake Girl Principles)
- how to be true to who you are
She covered a lot in only 10 minutes which is what I love about some of these TEDx Talks!
Okay, I’ll shut up now and let you listen in…oh and her call to action in the last few moments of the talk is def a must listen to!
Coming out of your closet: Ash Beckham at TEDxBoulder
Video Link: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kSR4xuU07sc
Over to you…
What’s in your closet? No, you don’t have to tell me – unless you want to. But think about it. This could be a great exercise to challenge your fears and self-doubt. Meditate on it; write it down in your journal; open up about one thing to a trusted, open-minded friend. What do you think? What are you hiding? What are you afraid of – ridicule, judgement, rejection, etc.? In the end, will it really matter?