If you’re gonna be real with someone, you gotta be ready for real in return. ~Ash Beckham    tweet-this

coming out of the closet

Oh, the proverbial closet…and wait, I’m not just talking about coming out of the closet regarding sexual orientation (however, that is just ONE of the many closets people find themselves in). Noooooo…I’m talking about the closets that keep us locked up; those difficult conversations we need to have.

You know what I’m talking about right? Coming out of the closet could mean anything from telling someone how you really feel about them, telling your family you want to quit your job to pursue a passion, telling a significant other you no longer feel the same way about them to admitting you have an addiction to something or even that you have a disease – basically anything that would cause us to be afraid to tell or admit to another person.

We all have been or are still living in a closet…and it doesn’t matter the size of the closet or why we’re hiding in one. The fact of the matter is, we’re in it….hidingwaitingfearing

A friend of mine, Sulinya Ramanan, shared a video on her Facebook profile and the title caught my eye:

A 4-Year-Old Girl Asked A Lesbian If She’s A Boy. She Responded The Awesomest Way Possible.

And in this video, a very wise woman named Ash Beckham shares the idea that we all have hard times in our lives, hard stories to tell, hard decisions to make, and hard conversations to have. She also touches upon:

  • how living in YOUR closet isn’t any different than me living in MINE
  • everybody’s coming out story is hard…stop comparing “hards”
  • why coming out of the closet is so hard in the first place
  • what it takes to come out of the closet (she explains her 3 Pancake Girl Principles)
  • how to be true to who you are

She covered a lot in only 10 minutes which is what I love about some of these TEDx Talks!

Okay, I’ll shut up now and let you listen in…oh and her call to action in the last few moments of the talk is def a must listen to!

Coming out of your closet: Ash Beckham at TEDxBoulder

Video Link: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kSR4xuU07sc

Over to you…

What’s in your closet? No, you don’t have to tell me – unless you want to. But think about it. This could be a great exercise to challenge your fears and self-doubt. Meditate on it; write it down in your journal; open up about one thing to a trusted, open-minded friend. What do you think? What are you hiding? What are you afraid of – ridicule, judgement, rejection, etc.? In the end, will it really matter?

“A closet is no place for a person to truly live.” ~Ash Beckham   tweet-this


Wassuper, it's yo girl, Kesha and I believe we should Be the Fruit Loop in a world full of Cheerios because life is more interesting when you dare to be different and challenge what's "normal!" I am wildly passionate about helping highly driven women pursue fantabulous relationships, juicytastic careers/bizzes, and authentically inspired lives.
Coming Out Of Your Closet…A Different View (Video)

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  • I’ve seen sometimes too where the person has been in the closet for so long that they start to believe the lies they’ve told to hide whatever put them in the closet in the first place. Do you think that is a society thing in general? That there are so many taboos created that we, as a society hides?

    • Hmm, very well could be Arelis…the main reason they’re in there (that long) is because of the dreaded judgement, isolation, and ridicule that comes with being different – whatever that is for them. Obviously those around them won’t accept who/what they are and so they live a lie and like you said, start to act as if. They will live that lie so hard!

      So yes, a lot of it has to do with our society which defecates on anybody that goes outside of the “norm”, which imprisons – mentally and physically – those who go against the preconceived ideals of what/who/where we should be, and ultimately ostracizes them to where they’ll never feel like they belong.

      God bless the few that dare to be different!

      This is the state in which we live… 🙁

  • James

    I agree Kesha, opening up is a tough task. Specially when you fear you will lose you loved ones when they come to know the truth. All I would say that there is a perfect time for everything, just wait for it. Time will solve all your problems.

    • Time does seem to play a huge part in problem-solving eh, James? 🙂

      Question, what do you think people can do who don’t think there’s ever a “perfect” time to out themselves?

  • Max Arthur

    I admire people who have the courage to come out of the closet. It’s never easy…

    • Exactly Max. I’m with ya! It’s hard as hell but sometimes we are better for it. 🙂


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