I remember when I first heard the phrase “growing pains” and I didn’t really understand what it meant. I thought to myself as a teen, “I didn’t feel any pain while my body was growing.“
But what I didn’t realize was that physical growth isn’t the only type of growth.
I’ve had lots of emotional pain, spiritual difficulties, and mental hiccups growing up – from being teased about being dark skinned, to trying to understand what I believe spiritually versus what everybody else told me I should believe, to trying to figure out who am I in this confusing world.
“Ahhhhh, THAT’S what they’re talking about,” I said to myself. “Well, then, YES; I’ve had plenty of pains.”
Since then, the phrase “growing pains” becomes evident anytime I try something new or have to deal with a difficult situation.
Because I’ve learned that through any and every thing I do, there’s a lesson to be learned, a speed bump to go over, an obstacle that stands steady in its place that I have to get beyond somehow IF I want to get what I say I want. And a lot of times, that can be painful.
The Comfort Zone isn’t always comfortable…
Incidentally, that’s one of my fave lines from Betty Wright’s No Pain, No Gain and she couldn’t have sung it better!
You see, recently, I was at a crossroads. I constantly asked myself:
- What’s my next move?
- What do I really really want? (in my Spice Girls voice 🙂 )
- Should I just quit?
- If I quit, what does that look like?
- If I stay where I am, what does that look like? Can I be happy here?
When the idea of quitting popped into my head, I instantly became unsettled. To accept what I didn’t want (going to work everyday and then sitting around twiddling my fingers at the crib watching the boob tube) makes me nauseated.
Then I went through the exercise of remembering my Why, going back to wonderful testimonials from people I’ve helped, and knowing that I do inspire and motivate others when I put myself out there.
I had to emphasize that part – when I put myself out there. Because I can’t grow without doing so and I know this and sometimes it can so freaking scary, right?
But the feeling of staying where I am…in this “so called” comfort zone…is killing me too!
I KNOW I’m destined for greater. I KNOW I can do so much more. I KNOW I can help many more people.
So the choice is between me thinking I’m safe where I am and getting what I’ve been getting and stepping out more on faith and principle to at least attempt to get, be, and do something MORE.
Will it work? Heck if I know! But I know it’s gotta be better than staying crouched like a scared little kid because I fear the unknown, the unfamiliar.
Besides, what if stepping out works? What if taking the next visible step into the unknown proves to be worth my while?
I know as well as anybody that stepping out of your comfort zone even for a teeny weeny bit is uncomfortable. But living in the box you’ve put yourself in can be just as hurtful, especially when you want to do so much more with your life!
Create a new philosophy
My new philosophy is simple…if I wanna experience a life of real freedom in every area of my life, I must create a new mindspace, get clear on my desires, solidify my Why, and believe that something greater will manifest.
What do you choose to believe? When you find yourself stuck in the “safe” zone saying, “I really wanna do X, Y, and Z but…” how will you turn that mindset around and make some moves?
It starts with changing your perspective and creating a new philosophy because obviously the current one isn’t working or you wouldn’t be stuck. You feel me?
I wish I could give you everything you wanted with the flick of my magic wand (it’s currently out of power right now, check back with me later LOL).
In the meantime, you gotta do what you gotta do to get what you want and that involves taking action – deliberate, focused action!
Talk to me…
Which level of discomfort will you tolerate? The level that will keep you stuck, wondering what if, and living with regrets later on OR the level that moves the needle on your life a little-bit and a lot-a-bit towards your goals and getting you closer to achieving your desires. The choice is yours.