I’m sure it’s of no surprise to you to hear that negative thinking is one of the reasons for under achievement. Your life is built on your self image and that image will depend on what you tell yourself. When you choose (and you do choose whether you think so or not) to engage in negative thinking you are deciding to believe in your inability rather than your possibility. But it’s not just you!
There are plenty of people in your life right now who are ready, willing and eager to spread the doom and gloom over why things just won’t work.
They are family, friends, acquaintances, and even plain ‘ol strangers we run into on the street who spread their misery and doom by not smiling when we pass by or give us mean looks.
Unfortunately family and friends can be the worst culprits (I know this first hand – sad)! They will always willingly let you know why you will fail. Why it won’t work out.
Sometimes they are just afraid of you developing, growing and leaving them behind. There will always be a deep, underlying fear in the negative thoughts of another.
The most important thing you can do in an effort to avoid under achievement is to learn to protect yourself from the naysayers. Other people’s opinion of you is none of your business! I have no idea who said that originally but it’s spot on. Instead of taking on board what others have to say, focus on learning how to develop the inner strength needed to achieve your dreams.
Negative messages from other people can only affect you if you allow them to. Learn to brush them off. It’s time to become stronger about who you are and what you stand for.
A friend of mine used to say that others can make you mad, angry, upset, happy, etc. My response to him was always – YOU HAVE A CHOICE! And you do. You have a choice in how you react to what others are putting out. YOU choose to get mad, angry, or what have you. The other person may have been the catalyst but ultimately, how you feel, what you think, and what you do are all under your control. REMEMBER THAT!
Recognize that you have complete control over yourself and your thoughts. Many people believe it is the other way around. They make statements such as “I can’t help it I’ve always thought this way.” But the real truth is you can help it. In fact if avoiding under achievement is your goal then you must working towards not only stopping it but changing the way you think too!
Awareness, acknowledgment and acceptance are the keys towards changing the negative conversations that rattle around in your mind.
Once you are in a position where people can say whatever they like without you allowing it to affect what you think about yourself then your life becomes more peaceful and certain than it can ever be.
Take Action Now
Is the opinion of others more important than the opinion you hold of yourself? Are you ready to tackle the negative thinking that goes on in your head (here’s a tip! If you hear yourself thinking negative talks just shout – either out loud or in your head – “CANCEL” and then turn it round to something more affirming)
Thinking bigger, wanting more, working towards achievement can make you a target for negative messages from your co-workers, family, friends and even total strangers because most people like the status quo.
But when you have a strong conviction within yourself, when you work towards ensuring all your thoughts empower you rather than dis-empower you, then you will be going some way towards transforming how you think and feel.
Answer this question, “Are you going to allow what people say to be the reason you under achieve?” Make the choice NOT to!
What you think about yourself will determine whether you are a success or whether you give up. Begin the journey of thinking great things about who you are and what you can achieve.
Henry Ford once said, “Whether you believe you can or whether you believe you can’t, you are right.” (One of my favorite quotes!)
Just for grins and giggles, I thought I’d add in this short “Are You Happy?” infographic (because we love infographics, right?). I hope you don’t end up with an answer of “No” in the end