I’m afraid of happy people. They’re chemically unbalanced. ~Shirley Manson
That quote is freakin’ hilarious! Thanks, Shirley, for the laugh!
But what isn’t funny is that there are people who have told me that I’m too happy or that I need to “save the happy” until after Noon. Really?
I can’t believe (well, yes I can) the sheer number of people who don’t like “happy” people and don’t want others to show pleasantries in the morning (“it’s too early for all that,” they say). *shakes head*
Well, screw them I say.
I hope to continue to be happy and get happier every single day until the day I die!
And you can be too.
Just check out these behaviors that happy people avoid doing so you can recognize within yourself if you’re doing the best you can to be one of those enviable “happy” people. 🙂
8 Things Happy People Avoid Doing
- Dwelling on the past. Feeling bad about something that’s already happened doesn’t make a lot of sense. Without a time machine (sure wish I had one!), there’s nothing you can do. Leave the past alone and focus on today. Life only happens in the present. You’re wasting your time and your life by focusing on the past.
- Worrying about the future. Worrying about the future isn’t much better than being bitter about the past. Both perspectives sacrifice your present and ruin your mood. Prepare for the future, but avoid worrying about it. Most of your concerns will never happen anyway (and you know this from experience!).
- Holding a grudge. Refusing to forgive others only punishes you. Half of the people you’re mad at don’t even know it or care. They’re going about their lives without any concern for you.
- Comparing themselves to others. With over 8 million people roaming the Earth, there’s always going to be someone who’s wealthier, prettier, smarter, or a better dancer. Comparing yourself to others is a losing game, especially when you compare your weaknesses to other’s strengths.
- Ignoring the positive. Humans are programmed to look for danger and focus on the negative. That makes it easy to ignore all the positive things going on in your life. You can counteract this tendency by making a list of all the good things in your life and reading it each day (think gratitude journal). Make it a habit. Keep the list by your bed and read it every morning and night.
- Focusing on the negative. When you look at everything that isn’t the way you’d like it, it’s easy to feel depressed and hopeless. Again, give fair time to the positive things in your life. You have plenty of them. You just have to remember them (just like you’re remembering the negative).
- Worrying about the opinions of others. You might think you outgrew this mindset after high school, but you’d be one of the very rare few. Kicking this habit can take a lifetime, but it’s also incredibly satisfying. You’re never free if you’re worried about what others are thinking. It taints every decision you make.
- Working at a job they dislike. It’s called “work” for a reason, but it doesn’t make sense to spend 8+ hours each day in a way you despise. Find work that you find agreeable and you’ll remove one of the primary causes of unhappiness.
Over to you…
Happiness is a choice you make each day. You have to make the effort if you want to experience happiness on a regular basis.
So tell me, what changes can you make that will shift your life toward happiness? Spend some time thinking about it and let me know in the comments below. It can change your life for realz!